Why plus-size fashion sucks, sometimes.

I don't talk about fashion and being plus sized often. While I do have strong options about it, I keep quiet since it is weirdly a very emotional topic to talk about. So while I get there are companies doing their best to market to plus sized girls, it is still a very much a fat shaming issue.

So lets look at it from a not fat shaming place. I am a big women, I am not huge but I am very much on the plus size side and honestly, yes I know I need to loose weight. Though like a lot of plus sized girls, there are very few diets, I haven't tried and I need to sort out inner issues before I can sort out outer issues. 

One of the biggest inner issues for most plus sized women is esteem, media keeps telling you that being bigger makes you ugly. That if you wear this type of clothing, and wear your hair like this and do your makeup like this, you will be smaller hence more beautiful. They lie, beauty comes from within, but this need to fat shame people is ridiculous. 

Pregnant women complain about how people treat them, that their bodies aren't their own when they are expecting since everyone and their aunt comments. Well plus sized women have the same but on a much worse scale. People at the gym, take pictures of you, we have all seen the pictures on facebook or 9gag mocking the bigger people at the gym. Not to mention restaurants or clothing stores. 

Actually lets look at fashion and clothing stores. What the heck, most clothing stores that do have a plus-sized area has either a ridiculously small collection or they have it in part of the store in the back hidden way so that the "beautiful" people don't needed to be confronted with plus sized clothing. The clothing isn't often flattering because most of it is box shaped in order to hide the body underneath it. It seems that plus sized clothing is cut for a weirdly specific body shape, and doesn't take in account, some women are busty, some are hippy and some have bellies. There is this culture that girls shouldn't show their bodies, so doesn't matter if she has good legs, a nice waist, all of that must be hidden in this box. 

Then let's talk about sizing, when you are plus sized, the size on the label actually means something. It is heart-wrenching to be a size this in one brand and a different size in another or even worse when the sizing isn't constant over one brand or stores clothing. This happened to me recently and made me think a bit. I bought a pair of jeans online, not only wasn't it the size that I ordered but the brand itself had 2 different sizes on the labels. The jeans were roughly 2 sizes too small just by the label. From looking at them, they sent me jeans 6 sizes to small and clearly not plus sized. If it had been 16 year old me, I would have been devastated, there would have been crying, and feeling really bad about myself and a huge knock to my ego. Now I am comfortable enough with myself to know that this is their error and doesn't reflect on me at all.

The point however is, do we really need to make larger women feel bad and label their clothes plus sized. Plus sized clothing is more expensive but a lot less care is given to the design of it. Surely in 2017, clothing brands can start to wake up and realise a large part of the population is large and treating them as if they are inferior or "ugly" is a good way to loose out on the money. Plus sized women tend to be very loyal to brands that make them feel good about themselves. 

If you have ever gone through this, I deeply feel your pain. If you are struggling with your self-esteem because of your jean size or the scale in your bathroom. I just want to say you are beautiful.